How will Good ever beat a bloody good Victim?

This week, I saw a woman leave an overall friendly Facebook group, because a handful of people were offended with a word in a question she posted and had picked it to pieces. So, she announced with much flourish and emotion that now she too was offended with the overall vibe of the group was was flouncing out of the room to share her thoughts elsewhere. wow.

These days you can read any social media post, or indeed news article and find someone who takes offence with it, disagrees with it and shares that feeling. So often, in life and on the internet when someone throws a line out like “she’s a narcissist” or “she’s a loose woman” we act like it’s a permanent sticker. Instead of saying the person who said it is the person with the bad personality or a spiteful mouth or quite often just a little person being a bully. At best we could say they are ‘having a bad day’ perhaps.

Blaming the victim – Being the victim, wearing the labels they throw at us, these are all ways that a the bad guys from psychopaths, narcissists to garden variety bullies get away with it, and we let them. We help them silence their victims, and turn the victims into the perpetrator. 

It’s this same ideology that lets bad leaders not only win, but carry on winning, it’s that same ideology that contributes to widening inequality, more mildly referred to as the ‘cost of living crises’. 

Let’s all do our best to be rubber, not glue, and ask more questions about who is doing what to whom.